i broke up with my ex over simple squables. i just didnt wanna give in. actually its just a petty fight.. and i kinda regretted it...

i wanted him back and i told him to think it over.. when he finnaly msg me to like go for dinner, he said he misses me a lil but doesnt know what he wants yet. then when we were about to go for dinner, he said last minute he cant make it cosh his fren having relationship problem. he was explaining to me because his fren want to propose to the girlfriend already and if we can just meet some other day but im stupid enough to reply him, i give up.

haiz.. then i told him, i didnt mean to say that.. i missed him so bad that i called him up last week. i told him, i wont disturb him this time round to let him think thoroughly. i didnt msgd him or call him up till today. its been a wk... haiz..

i msgd him wether i can meet him but he never replied me. so i called him up. i asked wether he can meet me today and he asked for what. i told him because i miss him. he didnt reply. so i asked again wether i can meet him today and he said no. i asked him back, wether does he want to give our relationship another chance?.. and he said he need more time.

does he really need time? i saw his msn greeting saying yesterday.. "lonely saturday night"

we broke up before because it was a long distance relationship last year but when i got back this year, he asked me back.

so i dont know wether this time round is it really over..?

 

 

 

 

 

 

I guess its over.

You did everything you could to get him back, but he still refuses.

Its payback time~

Originally posted by fairlady_xoxo:

Its payback time~

Pay who?

I feel that you should take it slow...instead of pressurizing him...it will make him think you're desperate...

Wait.

For him to call.

Set a time frame.

If he does not call within that time.

Let him go.

Just set atime. If no replies then get on with your life.

hard man... dont always use break up as a way to win an arguement. All it does is to create a larger crack between the 2 of you. Sooner or later the relationship will crumble due to these cracks.

anyway, I think he is probably enjoying his singlehood for now. What you can do is to move on. Carry on with your life. If you love him, no harm keeping him in a corner of your heart. Let him enjoy abit and one day, if he still loves you, he will be back. Then it will be up to you to see if you accept him. If another better person comes round while he still hasnt come back, then maybe you would want to consider giving him up.

better to move on...

Originally posted by jusagerl:

i broke up with my ex over simple squables. i just didnt wanna give in. actually its just a petty fight.. and i kinda regretted it...

i wanted him back and i told him to think it over.. when he finnaly msg me to like go for dinner, he said he misses me a lil but doesnt know what he wants yet. then when we were about to go for dinner, he said last minute he cant make it cosh his fren having relationship problem. he was explaining to me because his fren want to propose to the girlfriend already and if we can just meet some other day but im stupid enough to reply him, i give up.

haiz.. then i told him, i didnt mean to say that.. i missed him so bad that i called him up last week. i told him, i wont disturb him this time round to let him think thoroughly. i didnt msgd him or call him up till today. its been a wk... haiz..

i msgd him wether i can meet him but he never replied me. so i called him up. i asked wether he can meet me today and he asked for what. i told him because i miss him. he didnt reply. so i asked again wether i can meet him today and he said no. i asked him back, wether does he want to give our relationship another chance?.. and he said he need more time.

does he really need time? i saw his msn greeting saying yesterday.. "lonely saturday night"

we broke up before because it was a long distance relationship last year but when i got back this year, he asked me back.

so i dont know wether this time round is it really over..?

 

next time if you get into a relationship again, never ever even think of talking about breaking up in a arguement.

Originally posted by jusagerl:

i broke up with my ex over simple squables. i just didnt wanna give in. actually its just a petty fight.. and i kinda regretted it...

i wanted him back and i told him to think it over.. when he finnaly msg me to like go for dinner, he said he misses me a lil but doesnt know what he wants yet. then when we were about to go for dinner, he said last minute he cant make it cosh his fren having relationship problem. he was explaining to me because his fren want to propose to the girlfriend already and if we can just meet some other day but im stupid enough to reply him, i give up.

haiz.. then i told him, i didnt mean to say that.. i missed him so bad that i called him up last week. i told him, i wont disturb him this time round to let him think thoroughly. i didnt msgd him or call him up till today. its been a wk... haiz..

i msgd him wether i can meet him but he never replied me. so i called him up. i asked wether he can meet me today and he asked for what. i told him because i miss him. he didnt reply. so i asked again wether i can meet him today and he said no. i asked him back, wether does he want to give our relationship another chance?.. and he said he need more time.

does he really need time? i saw his msn greeting saying yesterday.. "lonely saturday night"

we broke up before because it was a long distance relationship last year but when i got back this year, he asked me back.

so i dont know wether this time round is it really over..?

 

its over if u still hvnt learn your lessons... give him a gd reason to return... show him the best side of u...

slowly la. i understand how u feel, petty at times and let emotions run the show.

its just that some of us are emotional people. learn from your mistakes and appreciate what you have, if he gives you another chance, embrace it.

 

if he doesnt, tough luck, only us to blame.

girl , u already try ur best.

 

if he need more time , give u and him a time limited for the relationship

if not , u have to move on

without man, u will die meh?

>> ahger83

its not wether i will die without a man.. i dont know how to explain to u.. cosh i doubt u ever felt what love is...

y i can conclude dat?

cosh u sound so bitter..

 

 

 

from what you see, your bf lost confidence, it's very hard.....

try your best to save back ba... for me, i think if i am you, i will try to save this r/s regardless of what people are saying. Cuz i am simplely addicted to what happened before in the r/s and i die die want it back.

until you reached a point where you think its impossible, then stop. At least you tried... That is what i done, and what i will do, if this happen to me,

Originally posted by jusagerl:

>> ahger83

its not wether i will die without a man.. i dont know how to explain to u.. cosh i doubt u ever felt what love is...

y i can conclude dat?

cosh u sound so bitter..

 

 

 

not that i sound bitter or i nv felt what love was.

i know how u feel now lor.. since he already decide not to go back to u already, just move on. no need to keep harping on this r/s.

MSN can put anything he like. maybe he feels lonely at home or not used to not having u on a saturday. yet, he doesnt even bother abt u anymore. y cling on?

 

maybe he had enuff of u always say "break lah break lah" after a small disagreement. he prob doesnt feel that this r/s is worth it anymore.

 

i know how girls will act during little couple squabble. we girl will always say "not happy, brk lor" once, twice, 3rd time, he will do it.

 

without him, u will survive. unless u are some 15 yr old with a good future ahead of u and wants to jump down from some building and give up everything for this worthless crap.

 

if u 2 are really fated, even 10 yrs down the road, u will still be tgt. y cry over spilled milk?

Originally posted by BangHong:

from what you see, your bf lost confidence, it's very hard.....

try your best to save back ba... for me, i think if i am you, i will try to save this r/s regardless of what people are saying. Cuz i am simplely addicted to what happened before in the r/s and i die die want it back.

until you reached a point where you think its impossible, then stop. At least you tried... That is what i done, and what i will do, if this happen to me,

i used to "try to save back regardless of wad ppl say" too.

but in the end, i asked myself (and jusagerl shld ask urself too)

1. is he truly happy?

2. am i truly happy?

 

mybe 1st few days to a week, u will be very very happy. but after that? he will start to show some unhappines. and u will start to ask " am i really happy?"

 

some times it's not abt wad ppl say, it's abt how u feel....

not that he decided that he doesnt want back..

cosh if thats what he wanted he will tell it to me.. thats the way he is.. he told me, he just need more time..

but at the same time im not really like 100% confident that he will want back. i know he is confuse and perhaps banghong is right, he lost confidence.

you know, sometimes, even though you yourself knows what is the right thing to do, you still ended up doing the wrong thing.

theres this saying, "you will never see the dirt on your own face"

perhaps, i kept concentrating on my own feelings thats why i kept making the mistake of ignoring his.

 

 

Originally posted by jusagerl:

not that he decided that he doesnt want back..

cosh if thats what he wanted he will tell it to me.. thats the way he is.. he told me, he just need more time..

but at the same time im not really like 100% confident that he will want back. i know he is confuse and perhaps banghong is right, he lost confidence.

you know, sometimes, even though you yourself knows what is the right thing to do, you still ended up doing the wrong thing.

theres this saying, "you will never see the dirt on your own face"

perhaps, i kept concentrating on my own feelings thats why i kept making the mistake of ignoring his.

 

 

to u, doing the right thing seems to be right. but to him, it just seems so wrong..

i tink now u are just pushing him further away. let him breath 1st.. u do ur own things 1st... talk to him when u, urself feels better and not pushing him away anymore...

maybe set a timeline.. say 2 weeks. anything more than that, i suppose it's a cfm break up liaoz....

U cant blame him... sometimes girls does not understand that when tehy refuses to give in or admit their faults in a relationship, it actually strains the relationship because it gives the guy an impression that the girl is taking everything for granted and want to be treated like a princess... so maybe this time he really cannot take it and insist on breaking up..

Sometimes i just dont agree that a girl must be treated like a princess or guys must give in to the girl no matter whether right or wrong to show that guy loves the girl... I believe that if you are in the wrong you jolly well admit it and change... So i hope you will really change in ya next relationship and treat guys with respect... ok??

Regarding whether to wait for him or not... hmmmm... this depends on how much u love him... I waited 2 years for my ex gf... and this 2 years was worth it... and she is back with me despite not having any contact within this 2 years.... Some people are not willing to wait... some are willing... some will feel that its foolish... it all depends on yourself.. what you want and how you feel for him. But if u really think no chance then u dont wait la...

All the best!!

i was the one who broke up with him... not him....

 

Originally posted by MaNyZeR:

U cant blame him... sometimes girls does not understand that when tehy refuses to give in or admit their faults in a relationship, it actually strains the relationship because it gives the guy an impression that the girl is taking everything for granted and want to be treated like a princess... so maybe this time he really cannot take it and insist on breaking up..

Sometimes i just dont agree that a girl must be treated like a princess or guys must give in to the girl no matter whether right or wrong to show that guy loves the girl... I believe that if you are in the wrong you jolly well admit it and change... So i hope you will really change in ya next relationship and treat guys with respect... ok??

Regarding whether to wait for him or not... hmmmm... this depends on how much u love him... I waited 2 years for my ex gf... and this 2 years was worth it... and she is back with me despite not having any contact within this 2 years.... Some people are not willing to wait... some are willing... some will feel that its foolish... it all depends on yourself.. what you want and how you feel for him. But if u really think no chance then u dont wait la...

All the best!!

how abt willing to wait but the person not worth to wait?

you mean.. he is not worth the wait.. or im not worthy to wait for him??

Wait for him and at the same time keep your options open?